Why Some Network Marketers Get Lucky…
Have you ever wondered why some people have all the luck?
Or why some people attract all the leads and distributors while everybody else scratches for grain like chickens in mud?
Well, I don’t.
I mean, it’s always the same half dozen people participating in the forums, writing blog posts, or entering contests. So when they quit their day jobs and reach their dreams it’s no surprise.
These people are warriors…
They wake up every day and put their hours in, even if they have a day job. They write an article, or post a video almost every day, even if they’re sick. And they’re always learning something new, even if they “don’t have the time.”
These are the same people who would strangle a cougar with their bare hands or lift a car to save a friend. The same people who face their fears every day by getting out of their comfort zone and taking on the world head on.
Sure, they make mistakes, but failure and rejection glide off them like they’re coated with Teflon or something…
So I don’t wonder why these people are so “lucky”…
What I really wonder about, is the people that I don’t see all the time. The people who don’t participate on sites like Better Networker because they’re too busy “working” or “sick” or the kids are screaming…
I wonder if they’ll ever be able to “make it” in Network Marketing. Because let’s face it, it takes a lot of time to learn all this stuff, and even more time to apply it.
Every six months, whether we like it or not, another personal disaster will happen like clockwork. If not, then a natural disaster like the earthquakes in Haiti…
Or Hurricane, Betty, Boop, or Katrina…
I don’t say that to poke fun at tragic events.
But the fact is, they’re part of life on this planet.
So when it all boils down, it doesn’t matter what your excuse is, or whether you’re right or wrong. Because we all know people with rock-solid alibis. People who genuinely have an excuse to quit, but refuse to do so.
People with learning disabilities who go on to make millions, or athletes with physical handicaps that can still whoop your butt at baseball or hockey.
In the end, the universe doesn’t care what your excuse is.
Or how good it is…
It will go on ticking whether you make a success of yourself or Not. Whether you sit there making excuses or breaking them. Whether you live, or live in regret…
“For of all sad words of tongue or pen,
The saddest are these: “It might have been!”
-John Greenleaf Whittier (1807-1892)
I invite you to leave your excuses below. What are the biggest problems you face every day as a network marketer? Just list them, you’ll feel lighter if you do.
To your success,
Jason The “Better Networker”
The Jason Better Blog
P.S. Have you played around with social bookmarking yet? If not, here’s an article you might enjoy: Social Bookmarking 101. Of course, you might be an old pro at this, so feel free to share these articles on your favorite sites too. It’s a clever way to disguise your content.
52 Comments
Jason on January 21st, 2010
Hey Dwayne,
You’re definitely in the upper
percentile for people who give it
all they got.
Kudos man.
I think a lot of people could
learn from your example.
It’s probably why so many people
who visit this blog check out yours
too.
Seems like you’re a popular guy here
according to stats..
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Dwayne Huggins on January 21st, 2010
Thanks man, appreciate it.
Talking about stats, what are you using to monitor yours? I have one already but Im looking around for another. Feel free to email me.
Dwayne
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January 21st, 2010 at 12:51 pm
Dwayne,
Stats…
Well, Google Analytics,
My Webhost of course,
And I periodically check
Alexa.com
Other than that, I haven’t had
much time to look into other alternatives
but definitely open to recommendations if
you find something cool.
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Richard Walsh on January 21st, 2010
The most profitless thing to manufacture is an excuse. I have to tell myself this all the time. Excuses are powerful negativity. I’ve got six kids from the ages of 2 to 5 so you can imagine the madness in my home. They always want something from me and it’s tough to say no So 3 to 4 days a week I now go to the library and get in a study room for 6 hours to focus and accomplish something. The other excuse is the wifes honeydo list there is always something to be done around the house other then my marketing (which she reminds me of constantly)It takes sheer determination to say no but you have to see the end result it’s the only way.
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January 21st, 2010 at 12:54 pm
Richard,
I think a lot of people are in your shoes.
It’s almost like every time you set your mind
to do something the world challenges you with
obstacles.
And while time for family is important… all to often
people sacrifice everything for their family… and never
see that in a way… they’re hurting them by not
pursuing their dreams.
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Mitcehll Dillman on January 21st, 2010
Jason,
You just got me smilin’…
Just yesterday, I commented about what it really takes to build any new business, doing anything.
Hard work, dedication and the ability to adapt.
You gotta do what it takes to get what you want…That usually means you gotta change what hasn’t been working — not complain about it.
Like usual, great timing.
Thanks,
Mitchell Dillman
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January 21st, 2010 at 12:55 pm
Mitchell,
You’re the poster boy for taking action.
Nice to see you had a second to stop in again.
I can only imagine what crazy things you’re up
to now… and I need to keep up with your blog.
Way cool.
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Derek Fobert on January 21st, 2010
Hi, Jason. Everybody has an excuse sometime or another, Depending on the day or mood. I have been guilty for it, myself. I am sure we all have been guilty of making excuses. As long as those excuses DON’T BECOME HABIT.
Dwayne said it best about the top two excuses: Not Enough Time, and Not Enough Money, I have written an article on this topic. I am learning that procrastination and laziness are the main reasons when it comes to actually ‘DOING IT’, and that leads to the many excuses we all talk ourselves into.
Great article, Jason!
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January 21st, 2010 at 12:56 pm
Derek,
No worries, I have my own too.
Not enough time, being one of the ones
I have to remind myself about.
In the end, it’s my responsibility to make
time… but like you…
I think we all have our faves…
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Tommy on January 21st, 2010
Good Afternoon Jason,
I laugh at Dwayne’s comments, I am also guilty as charged. I have six blog entries hibernating in my Blackberry waiting for me to hit send. I always second guess myself with the “its not good enought to post” excuse.
I was on a great webinar that gave out some excellent tips about not having enough money to budget your business plus reading this article helps and my primary opportunity’s conference is this weekend, so enough with the excuses!
Time to Rock n’ Roll!!
To your success,
Tommy D.
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January 21st, 2010 at 12:59 pm
Tommy,
I used to suffer from that too…
“its not good enought to post”
Fortunately, I’m so pressed for time that’s
no longer a concern. It has to be good enough
to post…
And besides, the feedback you get (or don’t)
tells you what you’re doing wrong… so that you can
give more value in the future.
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Richard on January 21st, 2010
My excuses can become my reality in a very short time, it is a battle in the morning, the negativity, and I’m old enough to have arthritis as a ready-made issue! I’m writing an article about for E-zine to find my answer!
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January 21st, 2010 at 1:00 pm
Richard,
Old age strikes again!
I have to remind myself to look
in the mirror every once in a while.
Yesterday, I was ten, now I have a bum
knee… like a lot of folks,
Hah.
I totally identify with you.
Warriors will fight on.
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Michael Cole on January 21st, 2010
Hey Jason,
My excuses were Too much to learn and not enough time to learn it.
That is changing fast though.I make a conscious effort every day to make a comment. the thing about commenting is you have to read (learn) the post before you can say anything.
After a week of commenting here I now have two ways to defeat writer’s block. Much better than walking around scratching my head.
It just takes a commitment to do something every day.
It’s nice to know I’m on the right track. Give me a few months and I’ll be one of the “lucky ones”
Michael
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Scott Manesis on January 21st, 2010
Hey Jason,
This might actually be an acceptable excuse:
” I don’t need any more money, my downline is so vast that I don’t have room in my matrix for anymore and I am so busy helping OTHER people achieve their dreams that I just don’t have time for personal growth”
What do you think?
~Scott
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Amy on January 21st, 2010
Great post, Jason (as usual). I was just thinking about this yesterday… my friend and neighbor had an emergency/tragedy and called me to help. I was feeling really grateful that I was able to drop eveything and be there… only because I’ve cocsistently barreled through excuses and kept moving forward in my business. Residual income (which amounts to time freedom!) is what’s available here… but it takes something to create it (otherwise everone would have it!).
I always say, this business is easy to do, and it’s also really easy NOT to do. There will always be an excuse if you allow it. If we simply move beyond our excuses and do what we’re committed to each day, we feel better all the way around (and our businesses grow!).
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tim wizba on January 21st, 2010
Jason,
This has some warrior and fragile life stuff.
Both very important threads that we gotta be sewn with, to my way of thinking.
We have to be strong enough to get back up, and motivated by the conscious certainty that we’re only renting. A finite amount of time, so what’s really important and what can we afford to lose , really.
A warrior must learn to make every act count, since he is going to be here in this world for only a short while, in fact, too short for witnessing all the marvels of it.
Carlos Castaneda ( No relation to George Castanza)
Tim
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Ilka Flood on January 21st, 2010
There are no excuses. The more I work the luckier I get. I work on my business every day. Yes, sometimes I don’t feel like it, but I do it anyway. I think about ‘pushing that boulder.’ I don’t want to rest and then have it coming to a halt and I have to start pushing it all over again.
So, I continue pushing it a little every day. Someday it will just roll down the hill all by itself 
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Damayanthi on January 21st, 2010
Hi Jason,
This week my excuses were – had a wedding to attend and my best friend came for a visit from Australia.
I knew about these events but didn’t get organized so that they will only have a minimum impact on my business.
I felt so guilty about my actions and I am leaving my excuse of friends and family interruptions here.
Have a wonderful day Jason.
Damayanthi
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Peter G on January 21st, 2010
Jason,
Aaah, excuses, I think I have mastered them all at different stages of my life & career! To be brutally honest, my best current excuse is “lack of sustained focus”. You shud try it sometime, it’s terrific for taking your eye of the end game, works a treat!
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January 21st, 2010 at 6:06 pm
Hey Peter,
It’s tough in the info age…
Then again… I guess that’s an excuse too?
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Chris Owen on January 21st, 2010
Hey Jason, I have a great one.
I just got home from a meeting for my side job (SEO marketing consultant) and I got an emergency call to go to Wilmington NC tonight. So now, I have not updated my blog with my great new idea for a post, and I have to drive all night. How’s that?
Hey thanks for dropping by and leaving a comment last night. It was cool that you liked my post. I get so much from reading your stuff, it’s nice to entertain you for once.
Hopefully my mechanical engineering gig won’t mess up my marketing gig too bad.
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Dee on January 21st, 2010
Jason, Just had a flashback—I grew up Catholic and went to confession every week—-reading the end of your post I just saw myself kneeling in that lttle confessional saying, “Bless me Father for I have sinned” and then going thru the list of transgressions. You always help me to get my laughter medicine Jason!
But you’re right it is better to get it out. So lets see—-for me its the boogiemen in my head that slow me down. Making things look scarry instead of fun; reminding me of things that didn’t go like I thot they would in the past. . .just junk mail in the head really.
One of my life coaches used to say, “Create the life you want—–or not—-either way they’re going to throw dirt on your face when its all over” (kinda graphic but its true). So I guess if its going to end up the same way no matter what I’m gonna squeeze every drop out of this journey as possible.
I look forwar to reading all the comments on this one.
Have an awesome day!
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January 21st, 2010 at 6:09 pm
Hey Dee,
I hope I don’t have a line of
guilty Catholics waiting to confess their
sins… I’m no priest.
But I think it does take the burden off to
admit we have excuses.
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Dee on January 21st, 2010
what I meant was I look forward to reading all the comments on your blog post:)
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Mary Thayer on January 21st, 2010
Jason,
Thank you for the Kick in the Butt. You must have been reading my mind earlier this week as excuses were coming up from every corner of my brain.
It is a daily challenge to beat them and it feels so good to crush them to nothing. Action spurs action! You climb a mountain one step at a time. It is important to just keep taking a step!
Thank you for sharing your talent!
Mary Thayer
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January 21st, 2010 at 6:11 pm
Mary,
I’m just happy to have readers like
you. This would be a very lonely place if
it wasn’t for all the cool peeps around here.
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Richard on January 21st, 2010
Robert B Parker, the Author of the “Spenser” detective novels wrote 5 pages per day, five days per week. He passed-away at his desk recently. He is quoted as saying “writers block” was really laziness!
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January 21st, 2010 at 6:12 pm
Richard,
I think that man has a good point. I thought the
same thing till I got in a rut. Then I had to admit…
maybe there was something to this myth.
Thankfully, I always get something written, even if it
has to be deleted later.
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Lynn on January 21st, 2010
You GOT me there Jason. I’ve just been giving myself a “lecture” about those very same thing. Like ‘Just get off you A_ _ and at least DO SOMETHING.” Believe me at “over 70″ I’ve built up a pile of BULL _ _ _ _! (dd your own choice there if you’d like). It’s all the same – - Useless prattle and a time waster. Thanks for you reminder.
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January 21st, 2010 at 6:13 pm
Hey Lynn,
No worries, we all have.
I have my own pet excuses but I lock them in
my closet whenever I can catch ‘em.
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Derek Alvarez on January 21st, 2010
Hi Jason,
Man — excuses take WAY too much energy!
I don’t have any time for that.
Plus, it’s fun to learn things most people just aren’t willing to learn.
(And DO things most people aren’t willing to do)
The more I learn, the more I seem to earn 
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January 22nd, 2010 at 8:54 am
Derek,
I think I’ll steal that line from you…
“The more I learn, the more I earn.”
Definitely, definitely, definitely.
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Dr. Bob Clarke on January 21st, 2010
Gerat post, Jason!
Another thing that drives me crazy? When I hear people talking about the Top Earners in my company like they’ve somehow been given a lucky break or special treatment.
No, they’re top earners because they’ve worked hard to get there. Period. No one becomes a top earner or leader from luck.
Most of them have worked years to get where they are today… and they deserve every accolade and every dollar.
So to all those who think that the leaders in their company are smarter or richer or better connected, and that’s why they have their status…. get off it… they are right where they should be.
You can be there too, if you’d stop complaining and start working.
Sorry for the rant, but this one strikes home.
Bob
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January 22nd, 2010 at 8:56 am
Hey Dr.Bob
It’s a shame, because the truth is so
much more fascinating than the “magic success button”.
Unfortunately, most people want the button,
not the work.
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Wayne on January 21st, 2010
Hey Jas,
How are ya, man?
I heard this first from Donald Trump in his book “Think Big and Kick Ass in Business and in Life”
- The Harder I Work, The Luckier I Get -
That’s especially true if you work hard at doing the things that are most important to success in network marketing – BUILDING RELATIONSHIPS.
I wrote a very similar post on my own blog on this topic…
Your statement about people with learning disabilities go on to make millions. Richard Branson is the epitome of this. He’s gone on to make Billions.
Cheers,
Wayne
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January 22nd, 2010 at 8:58 am
Wayne,
That is way cool.
I’m doing great.
I didn’t know about Richard Branson’s learning
disability, but he wouldn’t be the first.
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Donna on January 22nd, 2010
My biggest excuse is some are writes and some are readers. Some are listeners and some are talkers. I tend to be a reader and listener. This is one thing I tend to change in the near future.
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January 22nd, 2010 at 9:03 am
Donna,
Sounds like somebody stuck you with
a label somewhere.
I had that happen to me one time in a
shopping mall and the buzzers went off…
Embarrassing, but I wish that happened
whenever we label ourselves too.
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Geoffrey Yumul on January 22nd, 2010
Hi Jason,
I will have to agree about the excuses. I may not be on the upper percentile, but I am definitely confident that I know better now compared to 4 months ago. I started spending my time reading books, blogs, articles and apply them bit by bit. I have a long way to go, but at least I enjoy the things that I learned. Keep pushing forward and I’ll see myself at the upper percentile soon!
Cheers!
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January 22nd, 2010 at 9:05 am
Geoffrey,
I’m sure you will. Just remember that
education and action go hand in hand.
I spent so many years reading that I
caused myself a little bit of delay.
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Derek Alvarez on January 22nd, 2010
“My biggest excuse is some are writes and some are readers. Some are listeners and some are talkers. I tend to be a reader and listener. This is one thing I tend to change in the near future.”
@Donna, the only problem is that some people do so much talking that they never learn anything –
And they tend to get “tuned out” after a while.
I strive for a balanced approach although, like you, I tend to listen more than I talk.
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Freda Douglas on January 22nd, 2010
I am making more money now than when I was on ADP.
I only dropped my ADP when my health started to fail.Now I am devoting my time to writing, my first love. I don’t make money but I gain a sense of satisfaction from it.
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Dana Prieur on January 24th, 2010
I know I’m not a warrior nor am I very active in my responses here but that’s only because half the time I don’t feel like my 2 cents is valuable enough. That’s one excuse! My other excuse is the fact that I can’t just write something quickly or easily as most of you can. I usually read over what I wrote and continue to make many edits to my post, this becomes very time consuming for me. There have also been times where I’ve deleted everything I have written rather than hit that send or submit button. Guess what I’m thinking right now?
I do read all your articles Jason, including everyone’s responses. I guess it’s just like anything new, there’s that fear of not doing it right. I’ve mastered many things in my business, but for some reason this is one area I know that if I just keep pushing myself more and more, I will eventually become more confident and hope that one day I will be a “Warrior” too.
I’ve been listening to a great CD series called “Excuses BeGone” by Dr. Wayne Dyer. He teaches us how to apply specific questions to any excuse and helps us to realize that there are no excuses worth defending!
I guess I do feel a little lighter now!
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January 25th, 2010 at 1:17 pm
Hey Dana,
I think it’s the fear that makes things interesting.
If everything was easy, then you wouldn’t feel that
sense of accomplishment at the end of the day.
I definitely know how it feels to lose buckets of time
editing post. Like you, Dana, I also suffered from the
disease of getting things “right”.
After writing hundreds upon hundreds of articles… all
I can say is… it only gets easier.
Post it, revise it, leave it and keep your eyes on the next
project.
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Jose on January 24th, 2010
Jason, again, again you did it! It struck me what I read this time about making excuses. I went through all the comments written and by the way, awsome comments. And yes, the worst action for your business is making excuses for everything, I might no be very savy as a marketer right now, but I keep reading and learning all about increasing my knowledge on MLM, and not comming up with excuses that could stop me doing what I want. Yes, forget about excuses, those will kill any project no matter how good it is. Blessings.
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January 25th, 2010 at 1:20 pm
Jose,
I was actually listening to Tony Robbins
the other day, and he brought this up too.
He said, that most people who make excuses aren’t
really being “cautious” or “careful”, they’re being cowards.
Gutless.
I never heard Tony use that word before so it stuck out.
Thanks for dropping in Jose.
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Hey J
I feel like you was talking about me in the top half of this post.
Excuses is the topic for my post tomorrow.
The two biggest excuses by far are:
1. I don’t have the time
2. I don’t have the money
I used to use these same two excuses and got to that soul destroying place of NOWHERE real fast.
Not gonna say any more, check my blog tomorrow.
Great post
Dwayne
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